My 4 golden rules in dealing with people

Whenever I have problems with people, I always think: why this guy is so tough? why he is so stupid? why he is so annoying me?! But actually, have you ever thought about, it can be your problem also? Why you always want to blame on others, and try to excuse yourself?

Yan, I want you take it easy! I want you give more confidence and more trust on yourself and also onto the persons you love and like! Love as you never get hurt!

1. Take it easy! Be tolerant, be really tolerant, be flexible, people are people, people are not perfect, people make mistakes, people sometimes disappointed you.. sometimes annoy you, people sometimes selfish, sometimes a bit careless. Think about whether you will still remember today and this moment or this argument in 10 years later, will you? if you do, then try hard to make it be a good result, if not, then you should TAKE IT EASY! I bet 99% of the annoying moment you would hardly remember in even 1 year! So I ask you to TAKE IT EASY & BE FLEXIBLE!

2. Give more trust and confidence to the people you love and you like, give more trust to the people you love is not an easy thing, and you need to be brave! and also this is the best way you can take off your burden! Don't waste time to guess why someone did not reply you. Give the trust, your life could be much easier and a lot less complicated! Give the trust means you will not be angry when someone did not meet your expectation.

What will cost you if you do not trust? I will live in my little scared world and be afraid and scared of everything, and have no really good relationship, and be upset in evaluating whether this person said make sense, or on the hard decision to be or not to be! I bet I will end up going to some mental disease hospital! Trust till the day people really cheat you, really disappointed you, since I believe, 99% of people are good, are trustworthy!

3. You are not the center of the world! So no expectations to people, no assumed rules and principles, no assumptions if I were him, I would not do in this way, no expectations, nobody has the responsibility to do something for you, people should not do exactly as you wish, so no expectations!

4. Believe what you gave, you will get back, if you shout and scream to the mountains, the echo is also screaming, if you are encouraging, and well-mannered, you heard the same response. If there is some problems in dealing with people, then try to find out the problem on yourself, not others, think about how should react to make best of the situation. Think about how others would feel if you are in others' shoes!